It’s been a year that I’m not wearing bras anymore, and I’ve had lots of questions from very various people just asking me how and why, and I figured out it was a subject not much talked about yet very interesting, so I felt like sharing my own experience with an article about it all.
Let’s start at the beginning : I have very small boobs, I’m a girly girl 32B to be perfectly clear with you, and when I started becoming a woman, I was very complexed with these tiny boobies.
Around 12/13 years old, when they first started to grow, I was very uncomfortable with entering adolescence, with becoming a “woman” so I started wearing brassieres, only brassieres. At that time, it was the only way I could hide them as much as possible, and I was content with that solution.
Then around age 14/15, “competition” with other girls starts, complexes tend to evolve, and common naughtiness of most adolescents just does not help. At this point, no matter if you have small or big boobs, they become a problem. Girls with big breast keep hearing “airbags”, “watermelon” and so on. For me, it was “breadboard” or “bee sting” for instance (now, it makes me laugh like crazy, but at this point it was hard to hear)… So I tried to compensate with rigid bras, push-ups with 3cm pads and basket shapes. Even when I was looking for bikinis I kept looking for these kind of effects. It was a real complex that I kept for many years.
Around age 18/19, I kind of started letting go about the size of my boobs, but as I still had this image of myself being a tomboy, I needed to show how feminine I could be at this point, and I needed to feel comfortable with my body, and it still was all about my padded push-up bras.
And then, little by little, when I was around 20/21 years old, I started to feel the need to be comfortable in what I wore, just like I told you in my article from Monday. My feminity was completely acquired to me, so was my more masculine part, it just wasn’t a problem anymore, I was finally feeling good with myself. My ridiculously small boobs ?! They just became my allies. I could wear deep cleavages and sleep on my belly all night long ! I finally understood that having large breast was not a gift, and that I needed to enjoy my small boobs ! So I started wearing very light triangle bras, and I even wore brassieres again, sometimes.
Little by little, I just completely stopped wearing bras. At first it was on Sundays, or early in the morning when I took my dog out. And very naturally, I simply stopped wearing them. In the meantime, I read a few articles about studies on bras saying that bras weren’t as useful as we used to thought, that it was damaging the muscle tissues and that in the end, bras were the reason for aging sloping boobs.
Top : Monki – Soutien-Gorge : Princesse Tam.Tam – Short : La Redoute
So now, I just enjoy it ! It’s not visible, or at least not very visible. When I wear a top with a very large cleavage, or when I go to an important meeting for instance, I still wear a light triangle bra, but then I remove it as fast as I can ! It’s a release ! Of course, sometimes you can make out a little bit of tits pointing under my shirt, but it’s not a provocation, it’s just a matter of me wanting to feel comfortable. And after all, it’s nature, right ?!
I think the key is to just let go, to tell yourself that we are all unique and capable of personal will, and that no matter what you do or think, there will always be someone to judge you and someone to admire you ! So why go without ?! Or why go with, if I may say 😉